Are we really being our authentic self and living an authentic life? Or, are we products of the social expectations that are imposed around us? This is one of the greatest questions to ask yourself!
In a world that constantly tells us who to be, finding our authentic self can feel like an uphill battle. Every day, we are bombarded with messages from society, family, friends, and social media, all dictating who we should be, what we should value, and how we should live. It’s easy to get lost in these expectations and lose sight of who we truly are – divine beings who deserve every opportunity at true authentic happiness, personal fulfillment, and love.
Deep down, you know there’s more to life than fitting into a mold that was never made for you. You crave authenticity, a life that reflects your true self, your values, your desires and dreams, and most importantly, allows you to flourish into who you know you can be!
This is your journey to finding your true path—an emotional, transformative journey that will lead you to a place of genuine happiness and fulfillment. Let’s dive in!
The 6 Pillars of An Authentic Life
Acknowledge the Conflict of Social Expectation
The first step in finding your true path is to acknowledge the conflict between your authentic self and the social expectations that surround you. This conflict can create immense pressure, leading to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and disconnection from yourself. Recognize that this tension is not a sign of weakness but a signal that your true self is yearning to break free.
Think of yourself as a guiding light – a torch – that has been dimmed through each social expectation imposed on you. As you start to shed each false thought, false expectation, and limiting belief you discover how you have been led astray from your true power.
Reflect on Your True Values
Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you. What are your core values? What brings you joy, peace, and fulfillment? Write these down and hold them close. These values are the compass that will guide you on your journey to authenticity. They are the essence of who you are, untouched by societal expectations.
In these reflective moments it is important to not seek outward opinions, to listen to your true voice, and to calm the monkey-mind that chit-chats away, distracting you from accessing the calmness within you that speaks through peace.
Your Inner Voice is Your Compass
Speaking of inner voice – in the noise of everyday life, your inner voice often gets drowned out. Find moments of stillness to reconnect with this voice. It’s the whisper that guides you, the feeling that tells you when something is right or wrong for you. Trust it. Your inner voice is the most honest and reliable source of guidance you have.
Take Courageous Steps Towards Being The True You
Living authentically requires courage. It means making choices that align with your true self, even when they go against the grain. This might involve difficult decisions, such as changing careers, ending toxic relationships, or setting boundaries. Each step you take toward authenticity is a step toward a life of greater joy and fulfillment. On the path towards your true self, anything that is false will have to be left behind.
Surround Yourself with Support
Seek out people who support and uplift you, who encourage you to be your authentic self. These relationships are invaluable on your journey. A supportive community can provide the strength and encouragement you need to stay true to yourself, especially when facing resistance from societal expectations, family, and friends. The spiritual journey can be somewhat lonely, but it doesn’t have to be as you support yourself with proper support.
Celebrate Each Authentic Win
Celebrate the small victories and the big milestones on your journey to authenticity. Every moment you choose to be true to yourself is a victory worth celebrating. Embrace your uniqueness and recognize that your authentic self is your greatest strength.
Whether it’s going to a coffee shop alone, ordering a different item than everyone else, getting off social media, spending a weekend alone to self-reflect, ending clubbing. Whatever it may be, your authentic journey is your journey!
Creating an Authentic Life:
Balancing Work, Relationships, and Personal Growth
Balancing Work
Work is a significant part of our lives, and finding authenticity in this area can be challenging yet incredibly rewarding. Here are some steps to help you create a more authentic work life:
1. Identify Your Values and Passions
Reflect on what truly drives you. What are you passionate about? What values do you hold dear in your professional life? Identifying these can help you align your career path with your authentic self.
2. Set Boundaries
To maintain balance, it’s crucial to set boundaries. This means defining clear work hours, taking regular breaks, and ensuring you have time for personal activities and relationships. Boundaries protect your time and energy, helping you stay true to yourself.
3. Seek Purpose
Find meaning in your work. Whether it’s through the impact you have, the skills you develop, or the relationships you build, connecting your work to a larger purpose can enhance your sense of authenticity and fulfillment.
Balancing Relationships
Conscious relationships are the bedrock of a fulfilling life. Authenticity in relationships means being genuine and transparent with those around you. Here’s how to foster authentic relationships:
1. Communicate Honestly
Open and honest communication is the foundation of any authentic relationship. Share your thoughts, feelings, and needs openly, and encourage others to do the same. This creates a space for mutual understanding and trust.
2. Surround Yourself with Supportive People
Build a network of people who support and uplift you. These relationships should encourage you to be your true self. Let go of relationships that drain your energy or force you to be someone you’re not.
3. Prioritize Quality Time
Spend meaningful time with loved ones. Quality time strengthens bonds and allows for deeper connections. Make an effort to be present and engaged during your interactions, fostering authentic connections.
Balancing Personal Growth
Personal growth is a lifelong journey that requires dedication and introspection. Here are some ways to cultivate personal growth authentically:
1. Embrace Self-Reflection
Regularly take time to reflect on your experiences, actions, and growth. Self-reflection helps you understand yourself better and align your actions with your authentic Self.
2. Pursue Your Passions
Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s a hobby, a new skill, or a creative endeavor, pursuing your passions nurtures your authentic self and promotes personal growth.
3. Invest in Self-Care
Taking care of yourself is essential for personal growth. Prioritize activities that nurture your mind, body, and soul. This could include exercise, meditation, reading, or simply spending time in nature.
An Authentic Self is An Authentic Life
Creating an authentic self and life where work, relationships, and personal growth are in harmony is a journey, not a destination. It is an everyday task at being the truest form of yourself that you can be in that moment. It requires continuous effort, self-awareness, and a commitment to say “no” when you know something goes against the true you. Are you ready to embark on this transformative journey?
